Fear, Loneliness, Anger, Shame and Hunger (aka FLASH).
One of my favorite bloggers is Seth Godin . I have included his picture here because it gives you a hint about who he is. (Note: While his picture says click on his head, nothing will happen.) Seth has been a TED speaker, is always an innovative thinker and posts every single day without fail (an awesome feat). While he says his focus is on marketing, the topics are much broader. They always make me stop and think about life and how it works.
Recently he posted about FLASH: Fear, Loneliness, Anger, Shame and Hunger. Each of these emotions/reactions can cause us to attack and/or retreat, to do things in the moment that we are not that proud of later. It turns out that these feelings do not lead to being sensitive to others or being kind. The worst part for me is that I do not always recognize when I am feeling any of these.
In my family, we have an extreme response to hunger. I lead the way, even though I hate to admit it. I become irritable, cranky and difficult to reason with when I am hungry. The worst part is that I don’t recognize this feeling as hunger. It feels to me like everyone else is being irritating and nothing is working right. Let’s be honest. I pout. Luckily my family knows to offer food and not listen to my “I’m not hungry” denial. We have also added in a family phrase: “real food”. It turns out that the things I think I want (doughnuts, cookies, soda) do not work to cure what ails me.
As I watch the world react to the rhetoric that is being offered by all sides of the issues that face us, I realize that I am living in more fear than usual. My first response to fear is to hide and be angry. Sadly, I am usually angry at things that I think are beyond my control, which adds to the fear and a feeling of shame that I am powerless to correct things. It is not a good place to be. To add to the mix, I am currently living in a state where I have few connections. So that adds in loneliness. The entire FLASH package, delivered to yours truly.
So, what to do? I am still working that out. I am trying to eat well on a regular basis, hoping to forestall that pouting problem. I am meditating daily. (Okay, I need to do it at least twice a day). I am keeping in touch with my friends and family. I am writing this blog, to keep me honest with myself.